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Thoughts: 1 Month Anniversary

 

 

It’s officially been one whole month that I’ve been living in Paris. After my mom called me crazy when I told her I wanted to move here, after a whole year of planning and saving, after FINALLY getting on that plane and landing and now a WHOLE month has passed. I feel like I just got here, it went by so fast.

Though I’m loving it here, there are a lot of things that annoy me. I hate the weather, I hate the fact that I can’t express my true personality when talking to people in French and I hate the neighbor’s clock that buzzes EVERY hour…. Buzz…… buzz…. buzz….buzz buzz buzz….. buuuzzzzzzzzz. I. FUCKEN. HATE. IT. But no matter where you go, you’ll find things that you hate.

People say “I would die to move to Los Angeles.”…”I would die to move to Paris.”… Basically, you would die to move anywhere but the place where you live. Why? Cus you always want what you can’t have.  Which leads me to having a great state of mind…

Every day you have choices where in your mind you make up A) I’m gonna like this or B) I’m gonna hate this. “Doing homework” (I hate it) “Going to lunch (I love it) “Doing laundry” (I hate it) “Getting a pedicure” (I love it)…. and throughout the day, week, month… you make up in your mind whether it was a good experience or a bad experience. “ohhh I had a shitty week”…. “my weekend was kinda boring…” But no matter where you are, Paris, Miami, Mississippi… you will have these issues/choices. I think a lot of people are stressed and unhappy because they’re use to making negative choices. It becomes a routine about things they “hate” and they spend allllll day hating things.  So after hating things all day, all week and all month… they start to become unhappy where they are. Unhappy in their job, unhappy in their city, unhappy with their family. And then they start thinking I NEED CHANGE. I need to move, I need a new job, I need to cut my hair off…. People start thinking of drastic solutions without realizing that the solution is within them. Instead of changing your surroundings, change your attitude and state of mind. Because let me tell you a big secret… NOTHING IS EVER PERFECT. There’s a lot of struggle before rewards, but there are also a lot of rewards within simplicity.

You survived four years of college but are worried about one guy not calling you back. You have a great job but are worried about those 10lbs not coming off. Your heading to a nice dinner with friends, but you’re pissed off about the traffic.

Yes, I can go punch my neighbor unconscious, run in his house and destroy his clock or I can find another apartment and move, but in the grand scheme of things… the clock nor the weather have anything to do with my purpose here or the amazing experience I’m having.

 

We can’t have it all… but we can always find happiness within the things we do have.

 

More love, less hate.

Think positive and stick to your purpose.

Every problem has a solution.

Shit happens.

Have as much fun as you can.

 

**Disclaimer: If none of these tips work, have a glass of wine.

 

Thoughts: Enjoying Nothing

 

Life in American is soooooo fast!!! And I’m victim to it. We’re always ON. 24/7. We’re on with technology all day and we’re on physically all day. Every day is a hustle. And people are even proud of being a “hustler”.

We wake up, check email, twitter, facebook. Take a quick shower. Skip breakfast because we’re late to the office/work. Get to the office/work, right back to your email. Start on that to-do list, meetings, errands, meetings, more emails. You grab a quick Subway for lunch. Back on the grind. You get home… back on your phone/computer. Get all your shit ready to do it again the next day. And for myself, traveling in the mix of all that, from one plane to the next, I was always counting my minutes. And that’s normal to us.

Even when we think we are out for a leisure activity, let’s say dinner, we act with the same mechanism. We get to the restaurant: “There’s a 30min wait”… (f*ck). We get seated, the waitress takes forever to come (f*ck). We order, the food takes too long to come out “Where’s our food! F*ck!”.

Everything we do, we want it fast and we want it now! And unfortunately, I been stuck in these ways myself. I hustle all day multitasking a million things that when I feel like I have a minute of down time, I have to find something else to do or else I feel unproductive. And unfortunately, P. Diddy and Mr. Trump preach the same things. What you’re not doing now, someone else is, bla bla bla…. “Money doesn’t sleep”, bla bla bla…. You can always be replaced, bla bla bla

Again, we are trained to live a fast pace life and work like machines. Or else, we fail.

What’s the goal? Money? Status?

“Hey son, your mom was a hustler. I worked all day and all night! One time I didn’t breath for 4mins because I was working so hard and I passed out. Doesn’t that sound fun?”

I’ve been in Paris for almost a week now and since I quit my job to come here, I have not received ONE email from the bullet-fast inbox I had last week. Not one email asking me to do something. Not one email asking me to send a report or calculate ROI or a flight itinerary. Nothing. I even keep refreshing my inbox because it feels sooo weird. I came here a week before school/work to get settled in to my apartment and settled in to the time change, and I nearly went crazy because I had nothing to do! Ahhhhhh!!!!

Then I started thinking “Hellooo idiot, enjoy life!”

My mind has been so full of smog and living this fast pace life that I even forgot what it felt like to REST! When was the last time you took a walk? People watched? Enjoyed a coffee without looking at your watch? Lit a candle and took a bath? Here’s another, SPOKE to someone face-to-face…ahhhhh glorious! Yes, this all sounds really gay… but all those little nuances that life offers, they’re still there. There’s so many little things you can do that can make you feel at peace and ultimately provide you with more happiness than money.

So from here on out, I will continue to find pleasure in the moments when I’m not doing anything.

 

 

A plus tard!

 

*Photo: Allison’s IPhone

 

Thoughts: Moving To Paris

 

“Wouldn’t it be crazy if I just quit my job and move to Paris?”

 

My whole life I’ve been the “perfect” child. Not that my siblings are unperfect or bad, but as the oldest, there’s always so much pressure to do things right. Also, as the first child everything is a big deal “Honey, the baby is crying… let’s call the doctor.”… (The second child) “Honey, the baby’s bleeding. Her brother hit her tooth with the baseball bat, but she fine”.

I’ve always done everything by the book. Straight A’s in school, no drugs, didn’t get pregnant in high school, no gangs. Went to college, graduated with honors. Got a great career, make good money. Never been to jail or woken up in TJ half naked. I’ve had a pretty good life, a really great life, given that I was born in Compton and we were really poor with a single mom. I’ve wanted the best and got the best through a lot of hard work. But all those fun, crazy, all-night, “screw-it” moments growing up and throughout college… I’ve had less of those…

So what’s more important in life? Being successful or having fun? Making good money or making good memories? Being a great role model to your family or enjoying your youth? Though I believe it’s a little of both, balance and maturity, why are we so quick to grow up?

When we’re 18, we can’t wait to be 21. When we’re in college, we can’t wait to graduate. When we’re working, we can’t wait to get married. When we’re married we can’t wait to have a baby. You’re always missing living in the moment because you’re too busy preparing for the next moment. Isn’t that weird?

Maybe it’s because I’m a Pisces or maybe it’s because I’m always doing what I’m “suppose” to do… but I day dream a lot.  Some things are stupid like “I’m gonna rent a helicopter and drop powdered donuts on Christmas Eve (because it never snows in California)” to big ideas like, ““Wouldn’t it be crazy if I just quit my job and move to Paris?” But again, my balls aren’t usually big enough, and I just live patiently.

Well guess what? MY BALLS GREW! You ever get that question… “What would you do if money wasn’t a variable?”…. Yea, I fucken hate that question too because we all have to pay bills (duh). But it’s true, we all wanna do things, things are fun. And for me, I’ve always wanted to go to culinary school. I’ve been working in the food industry with really great food brands for the last 5 yrs and have taken different courses here and there… but nothing like enrolling full time. Again… cus I had bills to pay, responsibilities, family etc etc… By the same token, I’ve been fascinated by France since I was young.

But it wasn’t until last year that I asked my self “But why CANT you do it?” So I made a list (I like lists). “Pros” vs. “Cons”… What can I lose through an experience like this versus what can I gain.

So for a whole year I planned.  I researched, saved money, made tons of phone calls, asked for advice… I gave myself a timeline. “By X day I have to save X amount of money and know X amount of things”. It’s weird how things can happen with a little research and a little patience.

And after a wholeeee year of patience, I accomplished my goal! I had saved enough money and had learned enough about my career to make a decision. Now you start off at the bottom and you see this hiiiiiigh mountain peek of where you want to go next. You climb, sweat, fall, climb again, and keep climbing. You fiiiiinally make it aaaalllllll the way to the top. I made it to the top! Now all I had to do was JUMP.

I can finally say that one of my dreams is coming true. I jumped. I said good-bye to my corporate agency last week, I’m packing all my stuff and I‘m moving to Paris. I will be partaking in a culinary program and working in pastry for the rest of the year.

For the first time in my life I’m taking a leap of faith, following my heart, trusting my gut.  It’s gonna be hard, I’m scared, I’ve cried cus I’ll miss my family/friends, but I’m doing it for me. ME, ME, ME. And I feel really good about it.

I’m thankful for this opportunity and all the support I’ve been receiving. You never know where life might take you, but I truly believe that it always takes you down the road you’re meant to go in.

So I officially raise my glass to the beginning of a new chapter in my life! Cheers!

 

Video: Let’s Make Sushi at Home !!

 

When I was in college I was a Broadcast Journalism major. I finally narrowed
down my major (after changing it three times) and was content with this field.
But, the problem was that I was learning and doing so much, that I couldn’t
focus on one specific thing. I was a writer for the college paper, I produced a
radio show, I wrote a few screen plays, I directed a few documentaries and
videos. But still… wtf was I going to do after college?? Like most students, I
had NO CLUE! So I would just pray to baby jesus that one day I would just
figure it out….

While looking for something online, I  r a n d o m l y found the most HILARIOUS YouTube
video. MY VIDEO! Whaaaa?!? No, not a sex tape… the first video that I EVER directed in my
college’s studio. It was done in 2006, but I guess it was so awesome that
someone uploaded it to YouTube a few years later.

HOW TO MAKE SUSHI!!! lol

I watched it about 10 times in a row and laughed all 10 times. Back in 2006, I
never imagined that I would be working in the food industry and what a coincidence
that this was my first topic.

I now work on many aspects of PR, but all revolving around food – planning
events, food styling for photoshoot and video shoots, directing cooking
segments, menu and recipe development, working with great chefs. I really,
really enjoy it. I found my niche : )

Food and I were inevitable! <3 Funny how things work out…

 

Check out the video here on how to make the best sushi haha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZ5ARgfBh8E

 

 

 

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